we are always being urged to do the right thing. we are encouraged to be kind, caring and considerate. we are told about the importance of compromise and tolerance. often though, people fail to mention the drawbacks of charitable behavior: the inconvenience, the stress, the sense of being taken for granted. the frustration involved in having to feign enthusiasm. right now, i feel like i'm giving more than i can really spare. there may come a moment when i might regret this. but for every such "maybe regretful moments" there comes another moment when i am glad.