in the antique trade they have a lovely turn of phrase. if something is stained, weather-beaten or covered in rust it is “blessed with the patina of antiquity.” thus described, the item increases rather than decreases in value. the words we use can sometimes make a big difference to the feelings that we have. i have to be careful then of what words i choose to describe my situation. and i must watch too, for a tendency to dismiss something very viable and valuable just because i don't like the association which someone else has attached to it.